5 Ways To Keep Your Spark Alive With Your Long-Term Love

We endured a long distance relationship for over a year, gotten through some pretty ugly arguments and now we’re living together.


Last month, Robin and I officially celebrated our four year anniversary. Robin and I first met when he was 21 and I was 18. I was obviously in shock because the guy looked like a modern day James Dean, plus he could hold his liquor like a champ. At the time, our dates were held at college parties so I consider it a blessing he stayed with me even through my toughest of times. We’re somewhat adults now and it feels amazing to have come so far. Sometimes I feel like we’ve been through everything. We endured a long distance relationship for over a year, gotten through some pretty ugly arguments and now we’re living together! Despite the fact that he forces me to watch 3 to 5 hours of hockey per week, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Everyone knows that when you’ve been in a relationship long enough, you start to get comfortable. Sometimes, you’ll even catch yourself getting too comfortable. So next time you feel like devouring an entire tub of ice cream while venting about your most recent menstrual cycle, stop and ask yourself, is this really something my boyfriend needs to hear about? Ninety-nine percent of the time, the answer is yes (obviously) but on those rare yet fragile occasions, the best thing to do is pull yourself together and stfu.


I love all my single ladies out there but I have to admit, being in a relationship is amazing. I get to hang out with my favorite person all the time. Plus he loves me despite my crazy ways, which I’m only assuming can be super exhausting.

Keeping the spark alive can get hard after being together for a while, so here are a few things you can do to keep the fire burning between you and your babe:


1. Try Something New in Bed.

It’s no shocker that we all like some versatility in the bedroom. I’m not saying you have to go spend your paycheck at the sex shop, but change is stimulating so every little bit helps.

2. Surprise your babe.

What I’m about to say is super cliche but everyday you spend with your babe is a reason to celebrate. Don’t wait for birthdays, anniversaries or holidays to light candles or put on sexy lingerie. Pop that champagne and put on those heels girl, it’s Tuesday, don’t make me state the obvious.

3. Give space when necessary.

I’m really extroverted (if you can’t tell based on this post) and at times it can be admittedly annoying. So when the Blackhawks lose to the Capitals, the best things for me to do is let my boyfriend grieve peacefully.


4. Plan a Trip.

Sometimes a little tension in the relationship is due to stress at home. Pack a bag, rent a room and get lost in a random city. You’ll come home refreshed and probably decently hungover, but it’ll make some great memories.

5. Remember the simple things.

Little things in life make us so happy. Simply keeping your babe in mind is enough to keep them satisfied. So next time you’re at the grocery store, don’t think twice about getting that wine and chocolate, just do it.

Rebekah Black


Rebekah is a 23-year-old California girl living and working in Sweden in the software industry. Her favorite country is Italy, and loves secluded beaches, colorful sunsets, exotic food & red wine.

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